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personal reinvention

Having a baby makes you pretty resourceful.

At first — when our son, Hudson, would cry — we knew of very few ways to calm him down. The only one that would always work was to give him the breast so he could eat or suckle.

At about 4 weeks in, we noticed that his cries had slightly different tones — and many times, unlike we thought, he was not telling us that he wanted to eat.

So through trial and error, research and passed-down family tricks, we learned a few more calming techniques.

We’d swaddle him and bounce him on the ball to put him to sleep. We’d put him in the sling and take a walk.

These were enough, until they stopped working as well. We needed to learn a whole new set of tricks.

Now, we have the brain-activating-flashing-star toy, the hair dryer sound video from YouTube, and the baby-knockout knee bend.

If we were still trying just the breast, Annmarie would be incredibly sore and likely unable to handle it. If we were still just swaddling and bouncing, he’d be pretty sour — since he doesn’t care for this anymore.

Each part of his growth requires us to reinvent what we’ve already established as comfortable and effective and develop a different set of tools that will help him (and us) stay calm and well adjusted.

Since we’re only just a few decades removed from him, it’s hard for me to think that we — as adults — are that much different.

Things that worked for us (and our health) a few years, weeks or months ago, may not be working now. By continuing to do them, you stay stuck — continuing to sabotage the life that you so desperately want.

It’s time to do a personal inventory and cut away the things that aren’t serving you.

Do it today.

Reinvention is the only path out.

Your question of the day: When was the last time you reinvented yourself?

Live Awesome!

P.S. Here’s someone who’s gotten really good at reinvention.

Kevin Gianni

Kevin Gianni is a health author, activist and blogger. He started seriously researching personal and preventative natural health therapies in 2002 when he was struck with the reality that cancer ran deep in his family and if he didn’t change the way he was living — he might go down that same path. Since then, he’s written and edited 6 books on the subject of natural health, diet and fitness. During this time, he’s constantly been humbled by what experts claim they know and what actually is true. This has led him to experiment with many diets and protocols — including vegan, raw food, fasting, medical treatments and more — to find out what is myth and what really works in the real world.

Kevin has also traveled around the world searching for the best protocols, foods, medicines and clinics around and bringing them to the readers of his blog — which is one of the most widely read natural health blogs in the world with hundreds of thousands of visitors a month from over 150 countries around the world.


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  1. Brianna says:

    I agree – reinvention seems SO necessary to maintain balance. Great article.

  2. Lauren says:

    luv it!
    I love hearing about the baby!
    and the point was beautifully and effectively delivered.
    what a wonderful place the world would be if we all allowed each other the space and “permission” to grow!
    The nurturing/receiving nurturing cycle would cause us all to blossom.
    That is what heaven will be like….one day soon! 🙂

  3. mak says:

    Kevin and family- thanks for the motivation to reinvent my life as well. Well said. Blessings galore your way.

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  5. Eva says:

    When my daughter would get fussy I finally tried this cute little crib aquarium and it
    could wind up and play music while the fish swam around inside of it. She loved it!
    We started taking it everywhere, especially in the car.
    Good luck finding more baby solutions!

  6. Dianne says:

    being the mom of a whole mess of kids I learned the following:
    1 if a baby cries there is one of four things wrong 1, hungry, 2, diaper change p[ease, 3. tired, 4. gas cramps
    you handle appropriately.

    Love your baby, enjoy him, but don’t fall into he’s crying must stop him. sometimes they are just exercising their lungs. Sometimes they are playing you to get you to pick them up.

    Regardless of what you may think, babies can fall asleep without being held. Hold them all the time and you have created a trap for yourself.

    I used to always put the kid down and thank them for having agood day. Or tell them we would work on a better day tomorrow. I acknowledged them. They went to sleep.

    best of luck.

  7. Faye says:

    Kevin, Have you ever heard of “Dunstan Baby Language?” It’s very interesting and if you and Annemarie are not familiar with it, then I’d encourage you to check it out. This woman was on Oprah and many parents have tried her listening technique. I think Hudson is still young enough to try it.

  8. LynnCS says:

    I am always reinventing and haven’t got it right yet. One thing I know is that the kids always liked going out in the stroller and being shown all the colorful shiny things. All that energy it takes to take in everything put them to sleep right away. Interaction with an excited parent saying, “Oooh, look at that and that and that.” will do it. Believe me it lasts a lifetime. Any age, as soon as you say, “Ooooh look at that,” they go to sleep. Get used to it and be glad you no know the secret!! Ha ha….Much love to you both and little Hudson.

  9. Robyn says:

    Kevin and Annmarie-

    I recommend for both of you to check it out Dr. Joseph Garcia’s website

    The Father of American Sign Language baby. Since baby cannot talk as yet, the American Sign Language (ASL) really provide an excellent tool for him/her to use to communicate with the parents.
    In your case with Hudson, I believe you can start around the age of 6 month old to teach him ASL. It may be earlier than that. Imagine, no more need to figure it how to stop or why the baby is crying because you, Annmarie and Hudson learn how to communicate in ASL with ease?

    If you and Annmarie do decide to try, I would love to hear your experience with Hudson one day. 🙂

    Peace with Love,

  10. Zyxomma says:

    Yes, I’ve reinvented myself, more than once. It takes courage and will, but it also takes giving oneself the space and permission to screw up — we don’t get everything right, especially the first time around.

    I’ve never had children, so I have no parenting advice to offer. You’re finding your way, and that’s great.

    Health and peace.

    • Zyxomma says:

      p.s. Kudos on the website redesign. That renegade green all over the “old” design was hard on the eyes. This is much classier, and way easier on the vision. Thanks!

  11. Laurie says:

    Kevin and AnnMarie–as a longtime breast feeding mother, breast feeding is much more than feeding your child, it offers many additional benefits; serotonin release, bonding, comfort, security, warmth, intamacy, etc..I urge you to always consider the boob rather than all these “high-tech” stimulants. I really believe, if this is not what your son wants (he’s still so young) he’ll let you know…baby holding and simply feeling her/your movements as you make your way about her day is the next great natural, innate gift we can give our children. Enjoy it all, it is such a special, special time! Laurie

  12. Laurie says:

    Uh, did I say “boob” ? LOL….I am so a “breast” word kind of girl Haha, oh well…:)

  13. Marie Henry says:

    Sadly, there is no fool-proof instruction book for parenting. It’s all trial and error.
    Whatever you do, you have a 50/50 chance of being right or being wrong. From the time
    you bring a child into the world, you just try, try, try. Success is not guaranteed. But,
    try until you die. Enjoy the good times.

  14. susana says:

    I’d put my baby in the car and he would be asleep before we were aound the block…luckily I had a driveway so wouldn’t lose parking spot.

  15. Tara says:

    Aaah, the trials and joys of parenthood. For my third child, I gave up. I popped her into a personal baby carrier and ‘wore’ her while I hung out the washing, swept, cooked, folded clothes etc. When she was deeply asleep, I gently unhooked the carrier and lay in on the lounge – with my baby still in it. She was always in a safe position in no danger of rolling off the lounge. At night during the early morning feed (1 am) I would get into the single bed in her room, feed her and then sleep with her till morning. Stopped sleeping with her at about 4 months so it didn’t become a habit. But… everyone does what works for them and their baby.

    Reinventing myself? Yes! I now only work part time, see more friends and family. Reduced my debt by selling a non performing property investment – phew – that was a relief. Eat waaaaaay healthier, am more active, get more sunshine and grow my own organic vegies and TRY to stay as alkaline as possible. Try to spend less money and have decided that less definitely IS more. The burden of debt and too much ‘stuff’ is weighing everyone down.

    Seems to be working so far so good.

  16. Barbara says:

    Hey Kev! Welcome to parenthood! You will practice reinvention AT LEAST once a week for a very long time. (It does get easier with the second one….) But don’t worry….it gets better and in about 18 years you can relax. It’s a long journey but a most satisfying one! And your children will thank you for it. Thankfully, those of us who practice regular reinvention regarding our health and lifestyles will find it a bit easier.

  17. wendy green says:

    LOVE your stories and sharing about your parenthood path and hudson’s development kev!! i am positive you are the most informed, progressive, caring parents EVER and hudson will be the brightest most connected child EVER! kudos.

    i am reinventing myself as i write…on yet another yoga retreat, this time in mexico. meet new people, see new places. i reinvent myself mostly by changing my location often. i love change! sending jungle love to you and annmarie!

  18. BW says:

    I have seen babies who were in an awkward position in their stroller at the mall, and were of course crying from their discomfort, with the Mom oblivious to the problem. I wonder sometimes if a baby is perhaps itching somewhere, like between their shoulder blades, but because they can’t explain this to anyone, all they can do is arch their back and cry.

    I was told a story once from a lady who said that when her baby became very whiny, she took the baby in her arms, spoke soothingly to her, and said “You are here with us now, we love you very much, and we are going to take very good care of you.” The baby stopped crying soon after. I think that babies, in the same way that they discover their feet, may sometimes be in the process of becoming self-aware of their existence (in ways that we can no longer remember) and get a little bit uncertain about the whole thing. Talking to them directly and reassuring them that they have your attention and love may reassure them that someone around here knows what’s happening, someone they can look to for wisdom.

    And of course, all parents are very wise. : )

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