The Health Blogger Who Got Fat

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I must admit it, I have been hesitating about publishing this article for a while.

Why?

Because in the space of about a year, I went from a fit and slim Kevin Gianni to, well, a not so slim Kevin…

Here’s the story of how I gained 30-35 pounds as a new father and “ex-raw foodist” and lost it since then.

It’s also a story of how to find balance between the extreme of dieting and the free-for-all attitude of “I’ll just eat whatever I want.”

Here it goes (but first, some pictures – I’d never thought I’d publish before and after pictures of myself)!

Kevin Before, in December 2013, at my highest weight

Kevin After

Kevin After — Recently, after the Weekend Cleanse and other changes I made

What happened was predictable, yet I didn’t see it coming.

In 2012, my life flipped upside down. Our son, Hudson, was born. Within a week, I had a deeper appreciation for exactly what countless clients have meant when they’d tell me that “life gets in the way.”

Over the years, I always brushed off the idea of the “new father weight” as people being too lazy to exercise and keep up their diet.

But with the birth of our son, I slowly started becoming the “fat dad,” in spite of my great intentions!

What happened was a combination of lack of exercise with the consequences of eating too many rich (although organic and high quality) foods.

What I Did Post-Raw Foods

As many of you may know, for a couple of years I ate a raw food diet or something close to it. And of course, with my experience as a fitness trainer, I always made exercise a priority.

The problem is that the raw food diet didn’t work for me.

In some ways, I went too far in one direction, eventually “burning out” with the results that I told you about before.

After I quit eating a 100% raw food diet, I still stayed mostly raw and even wrote a book on the topic (The High Raw Diet).

But you know what happens when you deprive someone of something for too long…? They start craving it. You tell anybody “you can’t have this” — and they want it even more.

After I lost my identity as a raw foodist, I decided that I could loosen up a a bit, and eat whatever I wanted, without placing too many rules and restrictions on myself.

So I gave myself permission to indulge in the good things of life: great meals with great friends, drinking wine and craft beer, and enjoying all of the awesome restaurants that my city (Berkeley, California) has to offer.

I must say that I loved this new way of eating! I even learned how to make some “regular” dishes. It was like a liberation.

Of course, I avoided most processed foods, and ate mostly organic and local foods.

And… because I was exercising diligently, I didn’t see any major change in my body.

But all of that changed with Hudson!

After our son was born, I was so exhausted staying up with the baby that I started drinking coffee again, to make up for my sleep deprivation.

I had been been off coffee for a long time, but the call of caffeine was too strong in these challenging times.

Rather than cooking healthy and nutritious foods from stratch or making the high-raw meals I was used to eating, I’d grab whatever was fast and easy.

When Hudson would nap or finally fall asleep at night, Annmarie and I would collapse on the couch. Sometimes I’d read a book or watch a movie, but most of the time, I’d just doze off. The last thing I wanted to do was exercise (and honestly, I didn’t even think about it).

Nine months later, I was a sorry mess.

I had gained almost 30 pounds, maybe 35 (I stopped weighing myself out of shame!) pounds.

I’d get winded walking up the stairs. My skin looked terrible. And on top of that I was irritable, mentally foggy, and suffering from energy swings.

Not exactly what you’d expect from a health blogger, right?

But I knew I wanted to get back on track.

I also knew exactly how I was going to do it.

Water fasting would have been the best way, but I didn’t have time to leave my family to go to the fasting center we have here in Northern California.

Instead, I used a tool I had designed years ago for client, but had never shared publicly.

I call it… the Weekend Cleanse.

This is a concept I have been playing with for a while and even recommended to many clients. The idea is: we only need a few days to get back on track. Long cleanses work, but most people don’t do them because of the commitment involved.

I didn’t feel like doing a 30-juice feast. But I could do a 3-day cleanse.

So for three days, combined water fasting, juice feasting and a liquid diet, along with health-supporting herbs like muña and holy basil.

In just 3 days, I lost a whooping five pounds, broke my addiction to caffeine and the other bad eating habits I had developed during my “walk on the dark side.”

That was back in January of this year. Since then, I lost all of the weight that I had previously gained, started exercising again, and honestly feel better than ever.

All I needed was that little push… just a 3-day cleanse did the trick.

Frederic Patenaude and I have been testing the Weekend Cleanse and improving it by getting our staff on board, testing all the recipes, having our friends and family trying it, and making improvements.

All of that has been taking place behind the scenes, here at Renegade Health, over the past few months.

And now, we’re almost ready to have you try it.

It’s an idea that I had years ago and tried with many clients, but this year I finally needed it myself, and realized how powerful it was.

In just three days, you can break a cycle of bad habits and get back on track…

Other longer cleanses that last anywhere from 7 to 90 days are also very effective, but it’s such a commitment to try them that I feel they discourage more people who would otherwise be interested in making changes.

Only the very committed can jump with their bare feet in the cold water and go on a 90-day juice “feast.”

But anyone can do a 3-day cleanse.

And although you can’t expect miracles in 3 days, it’s enough to:

  • Increase your energy
  • Lose some excess weight
  • Break a cycle of bad habits
  • Give you the confidence to move forward

I must say… I’m really excited about this.

Stay tuned on the release of the Weekend Cleanse, and please feel free to post any comments or questions below about the story I just shared with you, or anything else.

Kevin Gianni

Kevin Gianni is a health author, activist and blogger. He started seriously researching personal and preventative natural health therapies in 2002 when he was struck with the reality that cancer ran deep in his family and if he didn’t change the way he was living — he might go down that same path. Since then, he’s written and edited 6 books on the subject of natural health, diet and fitness. During this time, he’s constantly been humbled by what experts claim they know and what actually is true. This has led him to experiment with many diets and protocols — including vegan, raw food, fasting, medical treatments and more — to find out what is myth and what really works in the real world.

Kevin has also traveled around the world searching for the best protocols, foods, medicines and clinics around and bringing them to the readers of his blog RenegadeHealth.com — which is one of the most widely read natural health blogs in the world with hundreds of thousands of visitors a month from over 150 countries around the world.

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  1. Jacek says:

    Kevin,
    you were working your butt off trying to get your business established. You probably spent a lot of time at your desk in front of a computer screen. You don’t look fat in the picture. I’m guessing you put on a few pounds and were a little out of shape. All of that comes with the territory of being a new Dad and a hard-working business owner. You’re young. You will do fine. I have a belief that it’s OK to take 8-9 steps forward and then 1-2 steps back ward, as long as you keep moving in the right direction. Keep celebrating life and doing all of the good things that you do.

    Jacek

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Thanks Jacek! Definitely 25+ steps back. But, yes, life did get in the way. Feels good to lose it though 🙂

      • Velda says:

        Kevin, I agree with Jacek. You did not look fat in the picture. Of course, you didn’t let us see a full view. You are such a smart guy, with a smart, loving supportive wife, it was only a matter of time until you got a handle on things and figured it out. Kevin, Thank you for doing all that you do and working so hard to keep people informed about good health, and supplying good, healthy products. God bless!! Velda

  2. Angela says:

    Hi

    Have to say, that even at your heaviest you still looked well.

    The telling sign for you was that you probably didn’t feel “well” and many people never get to experience that.

    Good on you for sharing and hope the 3 day cleanse works well.

    Angie

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Thanks for commenting Angie, I think that’s the biggest issue — I physically and emotionally didn’t feel well. You can be 2 pounds overweight or 200, but the emotional stress around it is the most intense. I am lucky I felt it. I feel I can be more empathetic. 🙂

  3. Angie says:

    You honesty is commendable and your timing is perfect. I just started spinning three times a week and I am ready to do a 3 day cleanse. Do you or anyone else out there think that it is advisable to spin on days that you cleanse?

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Angie, the idea of the cleanse is to take an activity break too. Three days aren’t going to break your exercise habit, so we recommend just relaxing and getting sleep!

  4. Robyn Law says:

    Ha, I wrote about this about 2 years ago after the birth of my first boy. It’s validating to hear it from another health leader and even more so from the father! Anyway none of us are perfect and it makes you more relatable to your readers. Thanks for sharing Kevin.

  5. Robyn Law says:

    And yeah, hardly fat man 😉

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Haha, yeah. Dad’s gotta get together and share the truth. Fat is relative. I don’t look it, but I couldn’t button pants that are falling off of me now.

  6. Anenja says:

    The only thing I can see that looks ‘thinner’ is your hair! Hardly a ‘fat picture’ Kevin!

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Haha, yes, that was how I lost all the weight… lol 😉

    • Romy says:

      Yes true Kevin you really do not look overweight 🙂
      seems you are very tall too so a few pounds..won’t really show that much.
      Glad the cleanse worked !! How about when you considered “underweight” I mean real slim
      to do that cleanse ? Not sure since can’t afford to lose more weight !
      Need to get this insomnia/cortisol balanced very disturbing,unproductive;
      Thanks much Kev !!

  7. Kevin you certainly look slim in photo #2, but since photo #1 displays from a bit above the waste and up…and you have that hooded sweater and other clothing on, it’s kind of like comparing apples and oranges. I guess you probably weren’t jumping in front of the camera displaying your belly at your highest weight…..so I can understand why you don’t have a more comparable photo. Exercise is key. As you know, all the great super foods and fantastic supplements alone won’t get us to where we want to be…. I see it and feel it first hand. Glad you are feeling better.

  8. jane kane says:

    Well welcome to the real world !!!! Now you experienced how women feel after having a baby and life changes drastically. Kudos to you for this article. and congrats on becoming lean and fit again. We all go thru different periods in our lives–good bad and indifferent, but when we have the right tools of education and value our bodies and those around us, we can return to a good state of health.

  9. Dave Bowland says:

    Why don’t you just eat fruits and veggies and be done with it?

  10. Jo says:

    Wow, your little boy has really growed up since the last pic I saw. He is cute like his mama.
    You are a lucky man.

  11. Sweetlips says:

    Hurry up and post – I am going for major surgery and would love to do the cleanse. Thanks for sharing your truth!

  12. Can’t wait to see what your 3 day cleanse includes!!!
    I went on an amazing cleanse/detox at the beginning of the year and felt great, lasted about 1.5-2months – however life, mainly work life has got in the way and i have fallen off the band wagon.
    Maybe your cleanse is just what i need to get back to it!!!

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      It’s always a process. You get off the wagon, then get back on. When you look at it this way, it’s less stressful and the stakes aren’t as high.

  13. Gail says:

    Life is a journey and that is part of your journey. Your little Hudson is gorgeous and worth every bit of the 30 pounds. Sometimes we have to experience certain things to be able to make intelligent comment and now you are in a better position to comment about weight gain. There are so many roads you have travelled within the health world that when you speak it isn’t from “learned” wisdom but “lived” wisdom. That is the best kind. Time to make another little baby and you and Ann Marie can write about bringing up children as well as Health :))

  14. Thank you for sharing. Your problem is exactly my problem! I am eating too many rich organic foods and lack of exercise. I just needed to hear it from you Kevin. Thank you so much! This post will help so many people.

  15. There is so much nutritional wisdom that could prevent “extremes”, thousands of years of wisdom, yet we all think that we are reinventing the wheel and find that we arent…because we don’t listen…so we don’t have to go through these swings. Or do we – perhaps to really get it.

    Said this before but you didnt listen: Both in the Ayurvedic wisdom and in traditional Chinese Medicine – we know that it is a balance and flow of yin and yang that works. People who are very yin, have taken drugs, sugar, and naturally of vata temperament for example, should not go on a 100% raw diet…it is yin, cold energy food that will not nourish the body enough – for this type of constitution (yours!! (with some Pitta too). Knowing that, the extremes need not be gone to…saves alot of time, energy and downtime.

    LOVE your honesty!! GLAD you are on track and feeling good again!! I have been there…100%macrobiotic, 100% raw, then on the advice of the elder Dr. d’Adamo – animal foods for 3 meals a DAY (yuk)…for me I need warm food as Kidney jing is very low and weak on only raw weakens that more…..so I do maybe 50/50 now and with all the knowledge from macro, chinese, ayurveda, supplements and the balance my body needs…I take the good and leave the rest alone. Again…depends on condition and constitution of the person and not on some intellectual concept of what is optimum and perfect. That is why I do nutitional counseling….every person’s needs are different. There is no one panacea. The cravings for “bad” diet come when we are not feeding ourselves correctly and so there is a regression to the old ways. Weigh it all…I eat salads warmed by the sun (in summer) and never from the fridge. I don’t overcook, but i do cook. I never use ICE in drinks as so many raw foodists do…baDDDD for the kidneys. Green is GOOD too much green is out of balance and not good, Kudos for following your gut!! Love and Light and what a gorgeous kid!!!

  16. suzanne says:

    Ok, I think you Kevin had a similar juice only program a few years ago that I purchased. Whats to keep one from gaining the weight right back when starting back up again with a more “normal” diet (trying to leave out the baddies). It did indeed cause me to lose about 4lbs. But it quickly came back. I am 63 and I do think weight comes more easily than it did when I was 40. And thus, much harder to lose. Just heard about a study that said in older age being a bit overweight (not obese) was actually a good thing for a longer life. Whoa!

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Hey Suzanne, it’s not really about losing the weight. It’s more about reseting your taste and your metabolism. Yes, some of the initial weight you lose is water weight, but ultimately, the cleanse is to help you realize that you can feel better. If you do that, you’re more likely to make better choices. If you don’t after the cleanse, then do the cleanse again until you do!

  17. Carolyn says:

    You don’t look that fat in the before picture, maybe because you are covered with a sweatshirt, or maybe because you carry it well even while it weighs you down. You do look great in the after picture as does AnnMarie and Hudson is a doll. I am completely frustrated with my progress and looking forward to learning more about the 3 day cleanse.

  18. Hi Kevin- I totally understand. I am over 40 and a fashion model on the side of my day job, and I have to stay in shape too. And I have experienced the “I’m tired and I am just going to eat whatever I want and go to bed” syndrome and how fast it puts weight on my body. I can gain 10 pounds a month by losing track of these things. Its SOOOO easy for me to put on 20-25 pounds, so reading your article I can totally understand what happened. I know exactly the “scale shame” you were talking about. And to get going on the right path again I have to do exactly what you described- go cold turkey and break the habits (whew).

    Thanks for sharing.
    Great article.

    Jacqueline Depaul
    http://www.yellowbrickrunway.com

  19. Kevin
    It is so GOOD to read about how you are not immune to every day struggles with your diet when life gets in the way! Your honesty on this is so refreshing, and encourages me to keep up the fight, knowing that it can be done. Sometimes I think authors make the mistake of hiding their struggles, and that lack of honesty creates a chasm between themselves and their readers, which turns people off.
    Keep up the good work!! 🙂

  20. Yvonne says:

    You all look great! 🙂

  21. shari says:

    I applaud you being upfront and honest. This Plant Based eating is inclusive of emtional ups and downs. The hardest is to recognize that we are human to. We know great health and how easy it is to implement, yet
    having a child, other events can and do throw us off balance.
    Thanks for sharing, I have had many life changing events, and the exercise routine changed. My emotions as well.
    I am back on track and so grateful that my health was fab. so it does not take alot to get back up that hill.

    Blessings and keep on truckin.

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      There’s really no other way to be than upfront and honest. It took a little while to publish this, but there was never a moment when I thought I wouldn’t explain this story. It’s too important to hide.

  22. Myk says:

    Animal protein/fat and not excercising are an easy 30 lbs.

  23. ann says:

    Kevin, you looked fine, maybe not to your standards of the ‘right’ weight but by no means were you fat. A few pounds may have done you some good during that period with all the stresses of a new child. You can only do so much after a baby is born, it’s hard to keep up with the lifestyle you had to a tee after a baby is born. That’s why when I hear about the raw food gurus that are so to the extreme, well, most of them either aren’t even married and/or have no children. That’s just the way it is, things change after the babies come along. Your family is so cute in that photo. 🙂

  24. Although I haven’t seen you in almost a year, I didn’t notice the weight gain either unless it happened after I last saw you! I did my cleanses in order to help me go raw probably around 2005, and then a couple of years ago moved to a diet that is probably an average of 50% raw (more in summer, less in winter), but I never liked the taste of coffee and learned from being a weight watcher (in what feels like a past life!) that journaling what I eat is important to me or I can get off track very easily. I can have alcohol in moderation, but it’s mostly all empty calories so I can’t have a drink or two generally no more than once or twice a week. I use a food database that shows me total calories, minerals, nutrients, fat/carbs/protein/fiber/sugar, etc. an average of 6 days a week (which also helps me determine if I need specific supplementation or need to add foods to my diet with more specific vitamins/minerals that might be lacking), and if I stop and go on vacation I just get back on track when I get back home. I avoid all sugars and fruits that are high in sugar (xylitol, erythritol and mannitol are my sweeteners of choice–and your teeth and gums will thank you should you choose to go that route!) and I also avoid foods that are high in carbs but low in fiber as a matter of course (in other words, I try to stick to a nutrient-dense diet), and try not to add fat to foods, just eating whole foods (i.e., nuts, seeds, avocadoes) instead. I have battled with the bulge my entire adult life until 2 years ago when I started to lose all of the excess weight after trading in an almost entirely raw foods diet for one that made more sense to me, including the addition of beans and some high-quality whole soy products (and more cooked foods). Essentially I eat a combination of Raw and Dr. Fuhrman’s Nutritarian diet, with the best little pieces of weight watchers (tracking what I eat) and low carb (low sugar, high fiber) thrown in. Everybody’s body is different, and you needs to play with all of the options until you finally hit on a formula that works for you!

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Hey Laurie! Great to hear your success! Most of the weight gain happened over the last 1 1/2 years… so yes, I was probably in decent shape then…

  25. Marisa says:

    What a beautiful family!!! and thanks for sharing your story. Just curious… what were the other changes you made?

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Marisa, I went back to a massive 32-48 oz green smoothie every morning. About 5 days of the week a salad for lunch. Then dinner was just sensible. For me, this seems to be the recipe and I don’t feel like I’m restricting myself.

  26. Laura says:

    Thank you 🙂 You have been blessed with a beautiful family!

  27. Chris says:

    Kev, after your years of extreme dieting it was probably healthy that you pigged out and gained some weight.

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Chris, I think you’re on to something… it’s almost like a detox, re-tox (remineralize) process. The diet I was on was not sustainable for me, but it definitely had benefits. I think the combination of the two healthy and enjoyable is the middle road I’ve been looking for…

  28. Carol says:

    Hi Kevin…..love your honestly…your committment….your information
    You’re the tops…(and I don’t mean the bathroom scale)
    Thanks for everything

  29. Tuliza says:

    Thank you Kevin for sharing with us. I too gained weight after altering my raw food diet. I didn’t experience having a new baby. For me, it was turning 55. I also had social challenges that made it an inconvenience for family and friends to accommodate my raw vegan lifestyle. I eventually started eating cooked vegetarian options and maintaining organic when I could. The down side, my body rebelled and I gained weight. I now know personally that I need the raw food diet. I know it compromises my social life but that’s ok. I am back to 100% raw and if I look like a bag lady carrying around my raw food, smoothies and juice, so be it.
    Kevin, I respect your knowledge and the advice you share. Thank you for being my healthy lifestyle guide.

    Sincerely,
    Tuliza

  30. Amy says:

    OK, just tell me you ate a Subway sandwich or Kentucky Fried Chicken and I’ll respect you. 🙂

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Haha, I wish I could. We live in Berkeley and 80+% of what we eat is local and organic. I did try a few In-and-Out french fries on a trip up to Tahoe, that’s how bad it got, lol. I have to say I was disappointed.

  31. Satori says:

    3 day cleanse —- I can’t wait!!!!
    I really need this. I’m eating a pre-made granola bar as I’m writing this. OMG. Help!!
    A log cleanse is not too good either for me because I tend to eat “worse than ever” after that!

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Hey Satori!!! Nice to see you here. It will help! I promise 🙂

      • Satori says:

        Geez Kevin, you remembered me? Do you know Satori is an extremely rare name in Japan? I only know two Satoris. Me and mom’s friend’s daughter who was named after me! Anyways I moved back to LA this time for good. It was SO easy to eat healthy in Japan that I’m SUPER struggling right now in the US. Most everything is unhealthy here. I almost forgot about that!

  32. John Russell says:

    It’s impressive that you only took a minor dip. It might sound like an understatement, but you didn’t even look all that different from usual in your before picture. On top of that you lost all your weight pretty quickly (five pounds in three days), and you broke all your addictions and bad habits in that same time frame. Wow. I may look into this.

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      The longer cleanses mean nothing if you do them and feel like crap because you don’t finish them. I feel like the three day cleanse that I’ve been using in variations for years is a tool that I can pull out at any time to get me back on track. If I slip again, I just do the cleanse again. It’s a great reset button…

  33. Karen says:

    I have been trying to find your blog post about how your figured out fully raw wasn’t for you. Can you tell me how I can find it.

    I appreciate this article so much. Since I met you at the Monarch wedding (which we attended and were very enlightened on the true personalities of all the raw food celebs). Of all the health experts (which you both are) I have ever met in my years on this healing journey = you are the ONLY ONES WHO ARE REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!

    How you interacted in person when you didn’t even know us with attentiveness and like you really cared!!! On your blog and on the videos you are the most humble and compassionate and allowing your journey to be a journey right along with us.

    Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what we all have done. Please don’t stop doing what you do so well. Share your love of life, eating, healing, juicing and supporting us and being REAL vs. putting on an unobtainable perfection we could never meet!!!

    Welcome to the amazing world of attachment parenting and bring up a loving beautiful child. I raised 2 to adulthood (almost) and they are such loving kids toward others and each other as siblings. My kids (19,16) said today, why in this world mom do most siblings hate each other and we love each other. It is hard to tell people because they don’t understand us. He said you must have done a good job!! I talk about you with them often. Please keep being YOU!!
    Love you guys.
    Karen

  34. Nancy says:

    Don’t care
    You and Ann Marie are still my Heros!

  35. Betsy Meehan says:

    I was wondering what happened to you! You got so quiet after your baby was born…. Thanks for sharing the truth about the weight challenge – it’s what we all face at various times and it is so helpful to hear your story.

  36. Heather says:

    Don’t say ‘anyone can do it’, what about the still sleep deprived, nursing mom. How does she (I) get back on track?

    • Kevin Gianni Kevin Gianni says:

      Heather! You will get back on track!!! Now’s the time to be with your baby and appreciate every moment of it. You’ll want more of this time when he or she gets older and you can’t get it back. 🙂 Believe me, as I lap up every bit of it now…

  37. Iulia says:

    Hi! I red your articles for a few years!
    Thank you for sharing your story about “weight”. Three years ago I started a mostly raw life (about 70% raw), but in the last year I experienced the same issue – gain some ugly weight, eating more cooked vegetarian, less exercises and physically and emotionally don’t feel well.
    I liked the way I felt and looked 2 years ago. So I really appreciate you honesty and look for your 3 day program. Maybe is just what I need right now!

    Greeting,
    Iulia

  38. Brandt says:

    Hey Kev!
    I’ve found myself in the same boat. Gaining back weight(30-40 lbs) I thought I had lost forever after being raw for a few years.
    This time it seems like it’s harder to get the weight off. I’m still veggie and eat a good amount of raw but my appetite is bigger. I may have to do a juice cleanse to reset my metabolism/appetite and get things cleansed out.

  39. Your pictures all look fine, Kevin. Guess extra pounds don’t show much on your frame. Thanks for sharing your experiences. It’s great that you found a way to get back on track, and that you were able to spend precious ‘bonding’ time with your son. Congratulations!

  40. Andrew Green says:

    Well, good that you wrote this nice honest article!

    However, I have to comment on this statement: “After our son was born, I was so exhausted staying up with the baby ….”

    This is really not how it has to be! We followed ‘The Continuum Concept’ (by Jean Liedloff) when we had our twins, now 20 years ago. We carried them all the time and slept with them and I NEVER had any sleepless nights.

    My wife breastfed (Americans say ‘nursed’) them on demand so, at night, if they woke up, she would just feed them and all 3 of them would fall back to sleep, without disturbing me.

    When they were 7 months old, we took them for a month to Morocco – backpacks on our back and babies in carriers on our fronts. We travelled all over the country with them, on a very low budget trip.

    We had decided that having babies was not going to disrupt our lives, so we just worked on the assumption that our little boys would be with us and share whatever we were doing.

    Our boys have grown up to be happy, well-adjusted, popular young men and are now both at University.

    It was so easy – why do parents have to make such a fuss about the whole thing!
    So my message to all new parents is: make it easy for yourselves, not difficult and treat having a baby as just a natural part for your life.

    • Corinne says:

      My dear, everyone’s situation is different. I sleep with my son in the bed and Nurse on demand…. which is still every two hours (he’s 7 months old). sleeping, while having to get up every two hours is not good sleep. I spend the entire day with him- during his three 30 min or so naps I make our food and clean the house/do laundry, etc….I have to work from 7pm when i put my son to sleep, until 1am, and then go to bed and wake up with him at 6:30-7 in the morning. I live far away from family that is able to help out…and I’m not interetsed in day care, mainly because he’s not vaccinated. anyway point being- great for you that you and your wife have it easier than some others. Every child is different and every person handles things differently and everyone has a different schedule than you>……. we’re all different. 🙂 I don’t really ever get a break, it’s very draining.

      • Andrew Green says:

        Hi Corrine
        Yes, obviously all babies are different, but our experience is similar to other parents who followed the same type of parenting approach.
        You might find it easier if you got a good carrier and carried him around during the day – that way, you wouldn’t have to rush about doing housework, but could do it at your leisure whilst he was sleeping with/on you.
        Don’t forget that there were 2 of us with 2 babies … jut like one of you with one baby! We, too, had no help from family, but really didn’t need it.
        I wonder why you have to “get up” to nurse him? Mary-Clare just positioned them both on pillows either side of her and then fed them, whilst she went back to sleep and so did they! So there was very little disturbance in her sleep.
        Andrew

  41. Patti says:

    Kevin, I love your book “High Raw”, I love your blogs, and I love the fact that you are honest and open about your experiences. However, you are not “done”. You have so many more life changes to experience, and I believe you will help others bring sanity to those experiences, too. Instead of either pretending they don’t happen, or just not changing your life at all, I am proud of you for looking for solutions and writing about your challenges. Keep writing the truth, Kevin, that is what makes you the Renegade. As one of your readers said, imagine if you were the one who went through the pregnancy, well, imagine if your spouse had no interest in eating well, imagine if your spouse refused to help in any way and you had to work. You can’t take address all the issues, but you can honestly and personally address the ones you do face. Believe it or not, it does help others who are facing more difficult issues to hold on and keep trying.

  42. Looking forward to seeing what you have in store for us! Dad and Mom both look amazing!!!! love S

  43. Charmaine says:

    Kevin, you are the luckiest guy for having such a happy and beautiful family.

  44. mary dicerni says:

    When I hear cravings, I remember the pill my doctor insisted I take. Mirtazapine, which is an anti-d[etidepressant for very sick people… It made me crave fats.. the docs say it is sugar. I am nit sure, but I searcjed for butter with marmite on crackers, fried wings, chocolate testing , donuts, .. I gained 70 pounds, and could not stop because it also made me very dopy. It is said that there is a protocol here in medicare to not repair SENIORS , but to gove them this drug, and let them slowly die.. to save money because they cost too much now that they are all destroyed from other previous neglect, like repairing ruptres nd disatasis. a next letter. I did find , however, that when I started taking Flax oil pills, I did not crave as much, so I would take about 8 or so a day, each time I felt a craving coming… the pills must destroy the good fats and our brain asks for them, so we search all places for the fat. I hope someone has more thoughts on this phenomenon.. did you crave fats too? I cannot see what I am writing, as there is the please do chart in the way.. lol thanks, Kevin, mary

  45. Mikeal says:

    So glad to hear that you are human! So reassuring to know that even you a conscientious health crusader is not immune to the same traps and obstacles that we all fall into. Thank you so much for your honesty. I feel a little less of a failure now for not always being able to live up to such high standards. Information, Encouragement and Honesty, that’s what we need!

  46. Martin says:

    Keeping it real boss! Good for you! That is one reason I think people gravitate towards you and your site. Always keep real, be honest and have integrity. A lot of so called health folks are never honest and would never admit things.

    The fact is, as you have found, balance in life is what really matters. We only got so much time, might as well try and enjoy it, at least from time to time. Worrying about anything in excess only degrades life.

    Keep it real, and you won’t lose me as a listener! PEACE

  47. Peter Kruse says:

    Thanks for the honesty! Personally, I also feel best when I live on a high raw diet – lots of green smoothies, nuts, salads, avocados and even eggs when I’m craving meat / dairy (allowing myself eggs when I crave meat and dairy has kept me off of them). I’ve been high raw vegetarian for a couple years and feel better than ever – this is consistent with the Blue Zones study by National Geographic – They found that, out of all Americans, vegetarians live the longest. Of course, I take a good multivitamin as well. Glad you’re back to inspiring us with the High Raw Diet! It’s what you do best… 😀

  48. Corinne says:

    Hey Kevin,

    Just wondering if this would be safe while nursing, because it’s only three days.

    Thanks!

  49. Mary says:

    Thanks for being so vulnerable Kevin, and sorry for your struggle. I so can relate! My five-year-old granddaughter was diagnosed with Leukemia when she was still three. It’s been almost a 1.5 and she’ll be on the treatment plan for another year. There are so many worries and concerns with the harsh drug world that’s imposed upon our children – I struggle every day to keep some focus on me and take time for myself. Too many months without my precious exercise in place, my hot tub, my sauna, my gym, my juicer, and lack of sleep … I too still do organic as much as possible, with little processed foods, but too much at any one given time and not enough at others. Back on caffeine, and attracted to sugar for a stress break (hah, counter productive!). Each day I pray that I can do better for myself, because God knows I do all I can for my granddaughter and family. I’m fully aware that if my plan is to help the family and be here for my granddaughter, my grandchildren, I truly need to take care of myself. Not sure what happens, but as you say, it’s definitely a walk on the Darkside. The extra weight is not only uncomfortable, unattractive, but foremost from me, it means dis-ease. Stress, lack of exercise, dietary hodgepodge, lack of sleep – all together equals a cocktail for disaster. I’ll be looking forward to and praying for the ability to do your three day cleanse – brilliant, that’s about all I can handle at this point and I need the support!

  50. Zyxomma says:

    Kevin, whether it’s you or anyone else, I have a bit of advice. Excess weight is not “lost,” it is released waste (which leads to a smaller waist). I’m on a campaign to revive a verb in English: to slim. When I see someone after time has passed, and he or she says, “Zyxomma, you look great, have you lost weight?” I always answer, “Thank you, I haven’t lost anything.” There’s a reason we have a multi-billion dollar weight loss industry, and part of it is language. When our brains hear we’ve LOST weight, it’s as if we’ve lost a wallet, or a keepsake … the brain will look for it, and usually we’ll not only FIND that 10 or 20 or 30 pounds, we’ll put on an extra five or ten so that doesn’t happen again. I emailed you about this years ago. Don’t be a loser! “Kevin, you look great! Have you slimmed?” does not contain the emotional baggage of a loss. Please, renegades, join me on this campaign to make slim a verb in American English. Health and peace.

  51. Sayuri says:

    Kevin, I think it happens to many fathers. I called it the sympathy fat. My ex had gained weight with my pregnancy as I gained he gained and throughout the first year after our baby’s birth…too bad we didn’t know much about cleansing or have computer or internet back than. I am glad that you are around now to inform us of Healthy Living and how you share your personal stories which is so powerful… Keep up and continue doing what you do. Thank you and much blessings to you and your family.

  52. michelle says:

    Kevin I gallbladder cleanse that you drink a liter of apple juice a day and had a half a cup of rice and everything else is vegetables are fruits I loved it I felt so good ,but I would have a problem with balancing my diet.I have more time on my hands and I wanted to do two weeks and 3 days of water cleanse do you think its safe

    • Michelle says:

      the governor cleanser 7 days and I was thinking about real food for for 2 weeks and 3 days on a water dietthe problem is just when I get off on a diet after a couple weeks I start getting off track little by little

  53. Louann says:

    Congratulations for your success of putting your “idea” into action, which also makes it an example for all your followers who might be in a similar situation!!!!! I am proud of you!

  54. Nancy says:

    Hi Kevin,

    Just want to send kudos for your ongoing excellent advice and articles. You’ve been elevated by this recent reveal
    because now there is more kinship and empathy from my side to you! I continue to learn and respect both you and your wife’s approach to studying, teaching and sharing personally with a gracious heart. Your smiles are lovely and so is your son.

    Being human seems to be a complicated journey and when traveling I open up the rules quite extensively from my normal life and routine at home. While I really love to eat primarily healthy, organic, farmer’s market fare with plenty of produce as its base I sometimes lean into “life is too short” not to experience more than my narrowed rules.

    I am impressed and thankful I read this article…as it supports us all. Peace, Nancy

  55. VeganOstomy says:

    I haven’t seen your video’s in a while, so I came to see if you were still around and WOW! Your family is so beautiful Kevin! Congratulations. Wishing you, Annmarie and little Hudson all the best!

  56. Heather says:

    After our fourth child, I am totally feeling this on so many levels! Thank you for sharing!

  57. Ugh. Not much helpful here for me. I’m trying to gain weight. Doesn’t make any difference what I eat or do. Still UNDERweight. Don’t be jealous. It’s not fun being skinny, tired and weak all the time. Who’s got the key to adding a few pounds??? If you’re going to say “bacon” and other fatty meat products, then you’re sadly mistaken, at least for me.

  58. Catherine says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this Kevin. I think keeping a healthy balance in our life; physically, mentally and spiritually is the hardest job we can do. I just got so far off track, and didn’t even see it till this morning. I listened to the last mediation of Deepak and Oprah’s 21 day meditation. Deepak talks about inflammation and it blew my mind. I had gotten myself into a complete state of inflammation due to stress and overwhelm. This winter in New England really did me in. Thank god I teach yoga, or I can’t imagine what my body would look like right now. But as you commented, it’s not just how we look. We know (and others know) when we feel bad and out of harmony inside. Keeping our body/mind healthy is a daily practice, and I’m ready to get on track again.

    I have followed you and Ann Marie for several years, and miss seeing you both via video. Thank you for sharing this picture of you both and Hudson. For me, it’s like seeing family. I love your honesty, and your willingness to share the good and the bad. We are all human, and must honor and love each other with all our foibles. We may take different paths but if we are heading in a direction of peace, love and wellbeing, it’s all good.

    Lots of love to you, Ann Marie and Hudson.
    Catherine Crocket
    Yoga teacher, health coach, and human 🙂

  59. Jillian Pelliccio says:

    Phew!! Your timing is perfect. I am also the owner of a health company and have gone through a 30 lb weight gain, although over a slower 3 year period. I’ve had clients not even recognize me…SO embarrassing. I recorded a video blog beginning to talk about what had happened, called, “Jillian gained weight!” as so many of my clients exclaimed when they saw me, as if I didn’t already know. I have hesitated to post it because I am not past the problem, with a bit of a journey ahead to lose the weight. I didn’t want to post this and not know where the story ends up and potentially really discourage my clients with my tragic downfall LOL! Still on the fence about whether to post now, but seeing your story has really made me feel so much better about what I felt to be a shameful experience. I am not on the other side yet, but at least I am not alone!

  60. Maggie says:

    Thanks for publishing this.:-)
    I respect your way of getting informed, drawing conclusions from that, living up to it and being able to change if it doesn’t give you what you want. I always feel bad about not being able to live according to the info I have. OK, I do eat lots of veggies, no sugar, gluten, diary, or soy and do EFT daily for the last 7+ years, but still….Needing coffee to get/keep going, being too tired to exercise properly, etc. And not being in a position to do a proper fast. However, if this happens to you, it can happen to anybody. When a 3 day (juice) fast can get me out of it, I’ll be very happy!

  61. Jennifer says:

    Hey Kevin,

    I am having a similar falling off as you did. I was Raw for a couple of years and followed you and Annmarie. That said, my falling off was called “Menopause”. When I turned 50 I decided “F-it I”m 50.” I spent my entire life struggling with my mind thinking I was fat and worrying about it. Although I wasn’t. I was a gymnast and worked out everyday all of my life. Then an old injury in my neck surfaced causing me pain and numbness and I still struggle with this getting prolotherapy now called sclerotherapy injections which is more holistic then epidurals etc. So, I was told to quit excising with weight training and just walked. That is not enough exercise for my body so, I started losing muscle have gained weight and because I had a new attitude I have been eating what I want and now feel stuck in plump version of myself. 🙁 I did a 3 day cleanse or simi I should say and went back to my bad habits. I think some of this is mid-life crisis stuff, not working enough or being able to exercise and out of the habit and sitting with my husband in the morning with coffee instead of working out. Which we need this time together since he’s gone alot and I get lonely. SO, you can see how emotionally I’m kind of lonely, live up on a hill away from the city and have lost motivation. When I read this I felt like maybe there is hope for me. So, Long story to a short end of I will be following you in hopes to find my freedom, motivation, and desire. So, I can create more of my work that I do and enjoy my life.
    Thank you
    Jennifer

  62. Scott Curran says:

    You really shouldnt charge for this weekend cleanse of yours. I mean sell the holy basil or whatever. But should you be recommending something to your clients that you are “playing with?” I will refrain from being “nasty or mean” but come on Kevin.

  63. Ilse says:

    Hi Kevin, I have been following you since 2010! (Fred since 2012). Don’t feel bad : after having a baby, it all happens to the parents : feeling tired and falling of the (healthy) wagon…children are beatiful not? 😀 I try to be high raw since 2010 but to much sugar gives me problems (blood sugar). What can I do to eat enough cal when I can’t have so much fruit (I have tried the 80/10/10 diet), and not from fat.. I do now the raw until 4 from Freelee and this works perfectly (well done Freelee). Thanks

  64. Abstrukt says:

    Whoa, so u can fall off the wagon without losing all ethical values. Theres plenty of cooked vegan and faux meats out there that you can add to your diet without needlessly contributing to the killing of animals. Youre preaching one lifestyle and living another. I thought you guys were better than that, Im gonna have to unsubscribe now.

  65. Ida says:

    Hey Kevin. I’ve been following you and Annemarie for years. I was raw for a couple years and have swung up and down and am now joyfully nestled in abundance where I get to eat for joy and fuel and have no attachments. I am the healthiest I have ever been ;). I just listened to the podcast of you talking about your weightloss/gain/loss etc (the weekend cleanse). I appreciate you documenting and going the distance with your health. You haven’t fallen off the scene when things went wrong and you had to change course. You seem like you’re in it with your followers to show the evolution of life!! We aren’t the same people every day so it’s great to see you showing everyone how change is great and healthy and perfect. Cheers, here’s to the best health ever!!

  66. Rosalind says:

    Bravo Kevin ! I totally love your honesty here, my dear. Very few will say out in public that they fell off the wagon, most of the rawfoodist act like they are gods of the raw food, which well all know that it’s not the case.

    Again, bravo and more importantly thank you for your honesty and sharing the story.

  67. Rosalind says:

    I just had to add something here….

    You see, Kevin, I’m a huge advocate of raw food and I do eat a lot of it, but realily is what it is.. for example: your life changed when you had your baby and now you made some changes and adjust to it (food wise and exercise, etc.) As for me, when I listen to all the rawfoodists who live in wonderful climats like California telling that even in winter you can be a raw. WEll in the winter or what they think its winter they still go out in t-shirt and enjoy the beach.. Here, in Quebec city, Canada when we talk about winter we talk about weather being -20 -22 and sometimes -30 Celcius. Therefore, there is now way after being in the cold that just a little cup of hot water and a piece of jinger will make me feel good. I WANT some vegetable soup, I want and need something hot and wonderful. I still dont eat meat in this weather but a salad will not do the trick for me, I can tell you that. That IS my reality, and I do adjust my diet accordingly. So, you see, it is wonderful that you came and talk openly about what happened to you and your reality. My reality is that I’m NOT going to move to California like many rawfoodists did. I think it is easy to preach other to do so and so, to move for great food, to change your life, etc. but well cannot all do that. WE have to adjust and make the best of it. Voila. Again, thank you for being real, Kenin.

  68. Jody says:

    Kevin, have you and Frederic released the details of the weekend cleanse yet? I have just been poking around on your site and came across this “old” blog of yours (you look amazing by the way) and would love to do the weekend cleanse… is there a link yet?
    Also, let me just take this opportunity to say – I’ve been following you for years and of all the health gurus out there, I respect you the most because of your complete and utter honesty and authenticity – and your sincerity.

  69. Cindy says:

    I’m checking out the abs on Annmarie!

  70. Charlene says:

    Finally, vindication for the busy parent:) Even now with my kids in their teenage years, my fulltime job as a math teacher still robs me of time and energy to look after myself the way I would like to…

    And, as you comment, the emotional stress of being overweight is actually the most difficult to deal with…

    Anyhow, like the sound of this cleanse!

  71. Caroline says:

    I’ve been following you on your journey on and off for a number of year. Touches me deeply to see your honesty and integrity. You willingness to self-correct and expose yourself in what is often a harsh, judgemental health movement leaves me believing, you’ve a lot more to offer than just dietary advice! Keep up the good work, with or without the weight…..

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