Around The Dinner Table

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Fat, old Uncle John’s belly pushes up against the table.

At this holiday meal, he’s rifting on why he doesn’t need to eat healthy because he hasn’t had a heart attack (yet.)

He grabs an extra helping of gooey-who-knows-what and shoves it down his mouth — you count how many times he chews on half a hand. He washes every bite down with a Budweiser.

Uncle John isn’t the only one.

Mom has an opinion as well. It involves a shake that you take in the morning, starving yourself during the day and eating a salad that weighs no more than 5.6 ounces in the evening (plus, you can have a cookie once every 16 days.) — she heard about it on the nightly news and thinks she might give it a try. She just needs to ask Dad if she can buy a scale.

Your brother Bobby thinks you’re a moron. He’s studying to be a physician’s assistant and is positive that nutrition doesn’t solve any illness or cure any ailment. In fact, science hasn’t proven any supplement, herb or food can cure any disease — that’s what the F.D.A. and A.M.A. say.

Grandma chimes in and shares that when she was a kid, they didn’t even have enough money to buy meat — all they could afford to feed all 12 children was corn meal and rice. Once a month, her father brought home a roast but always overcooked it.

Grandpa’s long since fallen asleep in his chair.

The kids are eating cake for dinner because, according to Aunt Dina, it’s the only thing that they’ll eat these days.

Rusty, the dog, is munching the gooey-who-knows-what off of the floor — it must have fell off of Uncle John’s fork as he motored it into his mouth. There is cake that’s fallen too, but he doesn’t seem to care for it.

Dad is silent. He will continue eating just as he has for as many years he can count — no matter what anyone else says.

Finally, there’s you.

You are eating a kale salad that you made at home before you came over. You’re fuming. If you could make steam, it would be coming out of your ears, nose and mouth. The stress is making your hands cold and clammy. You haven’t enjoyed a meal with them ever since you read “A Diet for a New America” over seven years ago.

You’re trying to concoct an angle that would make them all understand. You’ve considered giving books to them and having a DVD night to watch Simply Raw together. You wonder if you should secretly hypnotize them, or use NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to change their subconscious minds. Or maybe a more direct approach, tossing every bit of junk out of the cupboards when they weren’t around.

But, ultimately at this table, no one is doing anyone any good and your obsessing is making you more distant from the ones you care about deeply.

So it’s time to take control of the situation. Time to do yourself — and them — a favor.

Change the subject.

Enjoy them for who they are, not how you want them to be.

Your question of the day: How good, bad, crazy is it at your family’s dinner table?

Live Awesome!
Kev

P.S. Slip Mom a note with this website written on it. This might be better for her than the 16-day cookie thing…

Kevin Gianni

Kevin Gianni is a health author, activist and blogger. He started seriously researching personal and preventative natural health therapies in 2002 when he was struck with the reality that cancer ran deep in his family and if he didn’t change the way he was living — he might go down that same path. Since then, he’s written and edited 6 books on the subject of natural health, diet and fitness. During this time, he’s constantly been humbled by what experts claim they know and what actually is true. This has led him to experiment with many diets and protocols — including vegan, raw food, fasting, medical treatments and more — to find out what is myth and what really works in the real world.

Kevin has also traveled around the world searching for the best protocols, foods, medicines and clinics around and bringing them to the readers of his blog RenegadeHealth.com — which is one of the most widely read natural health blogs in the world with hundreds of thousands of visitors a month from over 150 countries around the world.

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  1. Jonathan says:

    Kevin, I appreciate your putting the full article in the email. I think that it is nice to kindly let people know why you eat the way you do, if they seem interested, but in no way push it on to them. I eat extremely healthily, my mom is eating pretty healthily as well, and she tries to be careful about really limiting the amount of sugars/sweets my younger sister eats. My dad is definitely doing better, but not really strict about anything. He often asks about what I’m eating, and I just answer (without saying things like, “You should eat it too.”). A family meal should be an enjoyable time of fellowship, and it is probably best to keep discussions of diet, health, etc. light to non-existant during a meal.

  2. Sandi Seegert says:

    That about sums up my family…I am the “health freak” while the rest justify their eating habits with “dr, fda, food pyramid” etc. etc….and all chime “We might as well enjoy ourselves”…But are they? Why would they equate enjoyment with junk food…Wouldn’t waking each day pain free, lighter in weight, healthier in spirit be more of an enjoyment? It remains a mystery to me!

  3. Del says:

    I’ve got one relative who claims to be vegan as she eats steak. I just quietly eat my veggies.

  4. Elizabeth Williams says:

    Well I am the healthy eating one. The family eats the standard american diet. My granddaughter though is 11 months old and her mother at least listens and will feed her child healthy items. I just try to do my own thing and most of the time my family doesnt give me too much trouble, but as far as anyone changing their diet, they want to, from what they say, but they are not at a place to change yet.

  5. erin b says:

    …sad to say this is much of our western world and so many of our families. I couldn’t even laugh as I read this (wrote very well by the way)it saddens me as I have been all of them over the last many years. I am so glad that a few years ago I decided I was worth a change.
    Thanks Kevin!

  6. Brianna says:

    Good point, Kev. I didn’t that a year or two ago. Changed the subject… just, stopped talking about it all together. And ya know what? I see little changes. My family asks to try the food I make, they like it. Now, one of my brothers and his wife have watched Food Matters, Hungry for Change, and a multitude of other documentaries. My brother gave up milk entirely last year (if you knew how much you drank before, wow, you’d be impressed at the cold-turkey quitting!).

    I think people watch more than they listen. So, I started practicing what I preached, consistently. And, giving the documentaries to watch – or suggesting we watch a “movie” as a family 🙂 I never objected if they wanted to turn it off, or do something else. But, they didn’t.

    Actions speak. No one likes to have someone else’s beliefs pushed on them (case and point: all religious wars).

  7. Chris Wark says:

    Well put Kevin.
    I definitely went through this way of thinking early on in my conversion to healthy eating. It’s hard to watch people you care about abuse themselves and unknowingly contribute to their obesity and disease.

    So I gave a few health related books to family members and friends, who didn’t read them…

    But, what I found is that over time people began to ask me what I was doing, and that was the opportunity for me to share what I had learned.

    Some people are open to it, some aren’t, but some of them will be in the future. Time changes things.

    Don’t waste your energy on people who don’t want to hear your message, focus on the people that do!

  8. lisa says:

    what a perfect moment for this newsletter to arrive for me! i am presently in las vegas visiting my dad and his wife. to say that our diet choices are worlds apart is an under-statment. they say they have to buy rabbit food when i arrive. this is an example of their typical diet and i am not exaggerating. donuts for breakfast, hotdogs for lunch and prime rib for dinner. people really still eat donuts!!!!! having not lived in the states for 20 years, i am shocked. albeit, of everyone i know here, they have the worst diet. my dad is suffering with horrible scoliosis and and back pain and i am can’t get over the fact no doctor is saying the first thing you need to do is lose weight. his wife has a kidney disease. i could go on and on. i just ordered food matters and fat, sick and nearly dead for them yesterday. i doubt they will watch it but if i can at least get through to my brother, that will be enough. on the other hand, dr mao told me once we all have choices and i keep reminding myself of that a couple hundred times a day while i am visiting. thanks for letting me wing, as they say in australia.

  9. Dejana says:

    Hahaha! Funny article Kev, thanks! I am currently visiting Morocco. The amount of sugar they eat here, OMG, it’s crazy. They put sugar in fruit smoothies! At home they dont use spoons, instead they use chunks of bread= lots of bread with every meal. Breakfast is bread in all shapes and forms. I see candida symptoms on people everywhere. They’ve never heard of the green juice. I share a bit of what i know, but it’s challenging to eat my way and not let them feel offended.

  10. Max Tuck says:

    I am so glad that around my dinner table it is harmonious. I live alone, but my boyfriend, his mother and myself are long term living food vegans, and it’s great when we get together. My mother loves our food. My sister is the only one who does not follow our regime in her home, but enjoys our food when she visits. It’s not about the food. It’s about the people. And we can love our friends and relatives for who they are, not what they eat. It can be painful for us to see others eating what we never would, knowing the harm it can cause them, but we must aim to be shining examples of our chosen lifestyles, not preachers of it.

  11. Jade says:

    Thank you!! Also add every time someone eats anything at work, it turns into a conversation about how you could never eat it, its not “healthy” enough!

  12. Velda says:

    Boy, talk about hitting the nail on the head. As with a couple of the people that commented, I am the “healthy nut” in my family. All kinds sof excuses why they eat the way they do. For instance, they don’t believe food makes any difference, they don’t want to live forever, they enjoy certain foods and don’t want to be deprived, etc, etc, etc. I love my family and just hurt for them, and love them where they are. They all can see the difference healthy eating has made in me, but somehow just don’t “buy it”.

    So, they are being deprived of good health, I don’t want to also deprive them of unconditional love 🙂 Thank you, Kevin for yet another great article.

  13. Narelle S says:

    Yep, That is the case when i go to friends homes..It is hard for me, because i still love a lot of the food that they are eating & if i don’t participate in 3rds for desert = they think your strange.
    I have a mental argument going on, telling myself what i should do for good health, but then again, I am also trying NOT to SHOULD ON MYSELF any more!
    My family eat a really good diet (i am gently trying to talk them into juicing veggies now), but then they go and ruin it by microwaving their food = they seem to think that the veggies are “good enough”, and it doesn’t matter how they are cooked!
    Ah Well, I just keep doing what i believe in, & hope to lead by example!

  14. Jennifer says:

    ARE YOU KIDDING??????? “JUST ACCEPT THEM FOR WHAT THEY ARE” ???????
    NO WONDER THERE IS SUCH A LARGE PERCENT OF OBESE PEOPLE (KIDS AND ADULTS) IN AMERICA AND ELSEWHERE.
    “JUST ACCEPT THEM FOR WHAT THEY ARE” IS NOT THE WAY TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM. KIDS CAN OFFER SUGGESTIONS AS TO WHAT THEY WOULD LIKE TO EAT, BUT ULTIMATELY, THE DECISION FOR TASTY, NUTRITIOUS MEALS SHOULD REST WITH THE ADULTS IN THE FAMILY, WHO , BY THE WAY, SHOULD HAVE BEEN EDUCATING THEMSELVES ABOUT THIS THE MOMENT THE KIDS WERE BORN (THE ‘SEARCH’ BUTTON ON THE INTERNET IS ALL IT TAKES) – NOT ALLOWING THE KIDS TO DICTATE WHAT IS EATEN, WHETHER AT THE TABLE OR ON THE COUCH IN FRONT OF THE TV OR IN THEIR ROOMS. REMEMBER, THEY STILL LIVE AT H-O-M-E!!!
    JENNIFER

  15. Lee Anne says:

    What a great piece! Sitting there, frustrated at how terribly everyone is eating, and obsessing about how their diet is destroying their health- that was me about 6 years ago when I first began eating vegan. Since then, though, I have learned that actions speak louder than words, and that the connection with my friends and family is soo much more important than worrying about what they are eating.

    I am lucky to have another vegan (my mother) in my enormous Italian extended-family, so that when criticism comes, I am not being singled out. I have also learned that their criticism of my diet has more to do with their own anxiety about what they are eating, rather than any real evidence that what I am doing is unhealthy. And now that I am not as preachy, over the years, more of the family has gotten curious rather than critical about how my mother and I eat. Now, I hear friends/ relatives telling me that they have tried green smoothies, or have started eating salad with every meal, and telling me what a positive difference it is making for them! And for those who aren’t curious, well, I enjoy their company a LOT more when I am not preaching at them!

  16. frustrated says:

    I’m usually invited over to my sister’s when my father and his partner visits and always make my own food unless I want overcooked veges, basic salad and no other dessert than something dairy. Dinner usually consists of a meat BBQ, or roasted meat, cooked vegetables,white rice, white bread, pasta, pizza and dairy dessert. They eat meat at every meal and my nephews eats zero veges and salad, even refusing my chocolate vegan birthday cake recently because it had beetroot in it! They also buy their own white bread! My niece is vege (yay!) and will make her own vege burgers etc or just eat the veges and salad with me.
    Hard to see people eat the way they do after having a health crisis. My brother in law had bowel surgery to remove pre cancerous growths and has made no changes still eating processed meat, white flour etc. My sister admits to wanting to eat more like me but puts her family first and makes the food they want. My son wants to know everything on the menu when I invite him over and often says no or brings his own meat which I really hate.

    There’s always alcohol and I sit there and watch my father drink…he’s had renal cell cancer, lost a kidney and now has bone cancer and lung problems and is still having chemo and is taking 18 medications. When I’m at his house with his partner I make my own food too, their food is so salty, fatty etc I wake up at night after eating her lentil dish using canned lentils for example having to drink heaps of water!
    I said once don’t make dinner for me and she said rudely Oh I’m not making anything for you!
    Dnner is never comfortable when you’re obviously eating differently and I feel they feel they are being judged but I never say anything!
    I brought raw lasagne to my sister’s once and my brother said sarcastically Gee that looks really nice. ! I said hang on I never ever criticise your food and say god how can you eat that disgusting meat etc!

    I think they see me as an inconvenience because I don’t eat what they eat.
    I sometimes make things there, salads etc and I can tell this annoys my sister. I had a major birthday recently and talking with her about party etc my sister said We’ll have just have a BBQ! OK so I emailed her a raw recipe for raw Thai Wraps ( using lettuce) and she said too busy to make and no one could make and I had to make myself…!! Laugh about this now, my raw friends couldn’t believe it! So made them myself and took it to my birthday…and they all loved it!

  17. zyxomma says:

    “Don’t ever change people, even if you can. Don’t change: Before the empire falls, you’ll laugh so hard you’ll crack the walls.”-Jefferson Airplane

    The families (both mine and the boyfriend’s, with whom I’m quite close) know how we eat, but feel zero obligation to make anything special for us, so I always bring food.

    There’s an annual family BBQ, and they do make sure to include some organic vegetables and portobello mushrooms for us (everyone gets assigned what they’re bringing, so that always works out).

    Thanksgiving at the in-laws (bf’s son-in-law’s mother hosts) is a bit of a challenge, but it’s about getting together with love, and I always make sure we’ll have good food. I sure do miss our Thanksgivings at Pure Food and Wine (great live food in a lovely atmosphere), but I bring a main, sides, and dessert. It was work to get them to leave the goat cheese out of the salad, but it appears we finally broke through.

    Health and peace.

  18. Ed says:

    Florida local farms have their crops in the field, in a few weeks there will be an abundance of fresh veggies. My diet is no example for otheres, still my be kind to my liver months has caught on as two families have bought vitamix blenders based on my lucid moments and liking local farms and farmers markets. That’s real in Bradenton Fl, knowing that vita-mix meets the NFL is real change. Yes “High Raw” is not just a download but an opened source with peppers anded to most.

  19. Charlotte says:

    Wow great article. Very interesting and well written. It so saddens me to see the world so sick. I wish that someone had given me the BeautifulnTruth movie or harped at me or atleast enlightened me that there was a different way!! I would have been thrilled if someone cared enough to tell me. I had to get so sick and feel so alone BEFORE i hit the SEARCH GUTTON… So i tell people and say to them… Im only going to tell you a few times and then Ill be quiet because I so so wish someone had cared enough about me to tell me!!!
    So at least talk to people and if they are open to listening TEACH THem,,,
    My asthma doctor now sits for half an hour and LISTENS TO Me!!! I dont have asthma anymore and he is astonished!!! But he is open to listening!!!
    Thank you for writing the article Kevin … i forward your newsletter to friends!
    everyone should read Suzanne soners books especially her trip to the emergency room ER in the book Knockout!! after an allergicreaction tgey tell her she has cancer and want to massive chemo to her !!! And tgen after four days in hospital admit it was a mistake!!!! Then what tgey do to her next is lije something out of a horror movie! Read it and prepare yourself!

  20. Ed says:

    People want flavor, in a veggie shake peppers have a way of reacting and dissapearing, kick it up and open some pores without overpowering.Thank You

  21. Karen Beattie says:

    I grew up in a 30 acre avocado grove with cheramoyas, exotic fruit and we had carrot juice,and yogurt before this became healthy and popular.My mother studied biochemestry and we had neighbors that grew organic food with sea vegetation. I went to two iradilogists Dr. Benesh and Dr. Jensen. I feel our diets need more yang food like microbiotics because I enjoy many fruit smoothies and juices. The David Avocado Wolf is by far the best teacher and we are buying his NutriBlast so I hope to get healthier; even with my thryoid condition!Happy holidays with a less footprint on our planet!

  22. Dee says:

    My partner and I love the holiday gatherings! Most often we take a cruise and enjoy the huge fruit and salad buffets. When we do rarely join the family festivities, I love to collect all the empty wine bottles they’ve left and I take them to my glass art studio and melt them. Then I regift those same wine bottles as momento art at the next holiday we connect at. I make-n-take an awesome low fat raw vegan cranberry salad that everyone loves so we all win and everyone is happy. We’re happy and they are happy and tipsy!

  23. liwen says:

    I thought the article was great and really funny. I only caught on to eating healthy eariler this year. I’m quite amazed that i’ve able to stick to it this long. Usually with a ‘salad diet’ i can’t last more then 2 weeks. I’m usually so hungry that I gorge myself for the next week.
    Having learnt the nutritional value of green juice, I’m able to keep healthy most of the time now, and have lost a bit of weight which is a bonus. It’s spring here in Aus and I’ve yet to have symptoms of hay fever. I do hope I’ve cured myself of it and be able to inspire more of my family and friends to listen to what I have to say in regard to diet!

  24. Em says:

    @ Frustrated (#16) – wow, I was really moved by your pain and your clarity in putting it all down.

    Sometimes I think about how hard it is for me maintaining 80/10/10, being an introverted hermit and not really having much contact with anyone.

    But I know how difficult it must be for many of you who do interact with friends and family who are not supportive and are even derisive of those who make changes to our culturally established paradigms (no matter how recently these paradigms have been formed) – especially when it comes to something as central to human interaction, as the sharing of food is.

    @ Zyxomma (#17) – really liked your Jefferson Airplane quote!

    @ Charlotte (#19) – what an amazing doctor you have!

  25. Mist says:

    “Enjoy them for who they are, not how you want them to be.” Great quote, Kev!

    Debates over diet, just as ones over politics and religion, could get ugly. Food is to people as cigarettes are to smokers; the force of the attraction, preference, desire, and addiction is so tremendous that attempts to incite a change are often futile and met with an equally tremendous resistance.

    I eagerly share my thoughts when they’re called for, such as when my sister mentioned about my niece suffering from eczema and I suggested that she tried cutting dairy or wheat from her diet. If my suggestion didn’t register with her, and she chose not to explore it, then that would be her choice and she would have to live with the consequences.

    “Live and let live.”

  26. LynnCS says:

    They think I’m crazy and I think they are. The difference is that they don’t mind saying it and I try not to.

    I ask if they mind if I bring a big salad for everyone and usually that works, but I eat most of it. I try to have enough to get a big salad for me, but if not, I can try to keep a stash of fruit in the car or in a big purse/bag. Then I can have a mono meal later, Eat again when I get home, or wait till morning. I finally have given up trying to get someone to be good to themselves. I need to be good to myself.

    Thanks for the thought provoking article, Kevin.

  27. Satori says:

    Kevin, how come grandpa is always falling asleep in his chair in Western story books!!??? This never happens in Japanese books.

    Also Kevin, the picture you used is disgusting!!! I can’t sleep like this. We need a little kitty or something adorable like that:D

    I went to a very interesting lecture done by a college professor who specialized in Environmental Studies today. He said that if you want to make your friend an environmental activist, don’t give them facts and scientific evidences. The science works on people’s head, but that’s not how people change the way they see things. They change their way from their mind/heart. So you need to work on their mind. So what can reach people’s mind? It’s a narrative. Give them inspirational stories. Present the science and numbers only if they asked.

  28. Jackie says:

    Yep you’ve described my holiday in England with my family and when we went for a meal in a restaurant I got so annoyed but I managed to keep quiet. But still I love my family for who they are, that’s just the way it is. It’s funny though when you put it down like that

  29. Denise B says:

    Yeah – I still have those moments with my family as well. I have reconciled myself to the fact that I have to take my own food to my family gatherings. I have a couple of people now trying what I have prepared. They say they want to change and would if I would cook all their meals! I’m not a raw foodie but eat some raw everyday. My main focus is gluten free, vegetarian lifestyle.

  30. maria says:

    All true but now it comes to going home for a visit and there will be no family meal because ironically my father is too sick to eat, and very soon he will no longer physically be at the dinner table.

    Now we are wondering what if – what if I wouldn’t have preached, what if I would have preached more or in a different manner….or what if i would have simply been present more?

    Intellectually we all know that we can’t change others and we can only do our best to set an example and be available if someone reaches out for help. But emotionally – sitting with hands tied and biting your tongue as you watch someone you love in pain suffering and dying – that’s the real challenge.

  31. Deloris says:

    First: Kevin, well written, I have been there so many times, lol, it seems I can’t count that high! I have been for years the “freak” of my family and friends. At our dinner table, the kids eat pretty much whatever I put in front of them, but my boyfried, he eats whatever he feels, and mostly what he feels like is take-out thaï (because it’s better than McD’s) or take-out pizza, or wings and poutine, or whatever other junk. He does eat what I make, but frequently grumbles and complains about the amount of salade and vegetables on the menu, and how that’s not right for human beings to eat like rabbits.

    I’ve learned to shut my ears, and my mouth, and keep plugging on. Now, the children will ask me to make carrot juice for them, so, leaving people (adults) to thier own devices I can agree with. The information is there, if they chose to see it, or not, it is a choice.

    Second: JENNIFER! WOW! WHAT A TIRADE! I agree with you in principle, but in practical reality, you cannot force people to do what they are unwilling to do. That WILL backfire, and you will have more and stronger resistance than if you left it alone, and let nature take it’s course. Children should not be left to their own devices, as they depend on adults for advice, direction, support, good healthy food. BUT, if you show a child an alternative and find a way to speak directly to him or her, it is amazing how quickly they can and will (in the right circumstances) change thier behaviours, even if thier parents do not. A bit of rebellion maybe, but kids are better equipped to deal with change than adults are, so in that instance, I’m down with Kevin. Let go. Accept them for who they are, love them for who they are, because the stress of not being able to change someone you love WILL MAKE YOU SICK. That will only prove thier point that your “healthy” habits are for the rabbits, and justify thier unhealthy behaviours.

    As my dear wise grandmother used to say, “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”

    Your on the right path, you take care of you, you want the world to go with you, but it can’t be forced. Just as you can’t be forced to eat steak and lobster pies, they can’t be forced to drink spinach smoothies. Acceptance, love and patience will triumph, it just takes longer. But then, the transition is real, and more likely to last because it was a choice, not something someone did to shut the other person up.

    🙂

    Have a wonderful day, everyone.

  32. Sarah says:

    Thank you, Kevin for posting this narrative. We live near my husband’s family. Mine live several states away and we haven’t shared a meal with them in quite some time. Both of our families are aware of our change in diet and commitment to our health. Some of each of our families have expressed that they wished we wouldn’t talk to them about what to eat, what not to eat, etc… I guess we have been so excited to share that we didn’t see them being turned off. I agree that people change through their mind/heart as Satori pointed out. So, unless we are asked, we offer our selves as physical evidence of success in letting our food be our medicine and our medicine our food.

  33. Bill says:

    Been there, done that, have 3 t-shirts…My family hates when I talk about nutrition, etc., BUT, they eat what I feed them and take the supplements I hand them. My 18-year old daughter likes vegetables more than meat, my younger son likes meat, not veggies. So I make sure they have good quality meat and veggies. I agree, you can’t say something more than twice. We have to set the example and people will pay attention to the parts that resonate at a particular moment, which is the adult way of learning. So, keep setting the example and give extra information/help when asked. And encourage good behaviors as those around us give them a try.

  34. Jean says:

    I’m 63 but there doesn’t seem to be a lot of hope for most of the older generations to change their eating habits. They just can’t seem to see their way to make the changes.
    Good news! My son and daughter have both recently chosen raw, vegan diets. My daughter has so far lost 30+ pounds of the 90 she was overweight, her girls are working out at the gym with her. My son and his wife made the committment to raw, vegan due to the birth of their first child. They want her to be healthy and they want to be around to enjoy her health! Yay!
    It’s too late for my Dad and my youngest brother, both died of cancers. My Mom is hanging in there and I think I could help her if I were with her. She lives two states away.
    Me? I’m a raw, vegan cancer killer. Gonna beat it so I can watch my grandchildren grow!

  35. isabelle says:

    You really made me laugh… !!
    This is they way it used to be with my friend my age (65ish) when I changed to raw & loost 44lbs & vastly IMPROVED my health. They all have osteoporosis, diabetes, heart attacks, strokes, deafness, tinnitus, arthritis, need I go on??!!…They all made horrible fun of me & my dietary changes until I blew up one day and told them I refused to have all the horrible illnesses THEY suffered from, and that I had taken charge of MY health, AND if they wanted they could follow suit….to date, none of them have, and their health problems are worse and worse (more and more pills etc) and my health is better and better!
    I started this in 01. 2009….your recipe for Fake Tune was the first “raw food” recipe I ever made!! Thank you Kevin and Anne Marie and much love to you and baby Hudson…God bless !! Love and light from Isabelle

  36. chris harrison says:

    For the many it is difficult to buck the system that has promoted the greater destructive lifestyle; that system includes government entities, corporations, the media and deeper yet… and done so collusively toward a particular end. The promotion of such is not random or accidental either. When some ‘devils advocate’ pops up and says ‘prove it’ I can only say either disprove it or prove it to yourself. I will only plant the seed, if you care at all, it’s now in your ballpark. Then I’m gone. But yes, I’m continually appalled and have been all my life by those who who refuse to ‘get it’. The bounty of this year’s fruit harvest in my locale has me first picking the stuff from off of the ground, enjoying it at it’s peak of ripeness. I’m learning how to can (though understanding the loss of value through processing) without sugar or pectin. I wish all of you could come browse the gardens and orchards so as to feel this ‘Garden of Eden’ effect; the locals would beg for folks to come take the surplus. Apples, plums, peaches, pears, grapes; then tomatoes, squash and peppers of all varieties, strawberries, raspberries, cukes, herbs, and the list goes on. Lacking politics and greed in this system that victimizes, that we find ourselves embroiled in, nature would gladly support more billions, though there’s a point. Those suffering hunger have been set upon by the system that’s been erected. There’s no good reason that African children should perish due to lack of nutrition, because the human spirit is always ready to ‘grow their own’. Yeah, let’s pat ourselves on the back for donating GMO crap to the starving instead of teaching them, more so, allowing them to grow their own. Feed the children campaigns are actually ‘keep ’em ignorant and dependent’ campaigns. This aspect of the connivers makes my blood boil. I’m about to give up what I have here and find a venue in Africa where I may teach principles of self sufficiency. Any sponsors out there? I can’t do it on my own, only because time is of the essence.

  37. Petra says:

    Awesome really funny my family is the same I am the weird one and they always ask what the flavor of the month is, what am I into now?
    I must admit I do fall off the raw wagon when I am at family dinners I do bring some raw dish . I try not to be too hard on myself and I always say tomorrow is anew day. My grandkids are great, they love helping me make juices, smoothies. My biggest challenge is my husband is a meat eater and junk food eater I cook his meal and a different one for me, so the smell of cooked food is always there. I do the best I can and hope in time I get stronger in staying raw.
    My issue presently is about parrisites I am doing a cleanse and my husband refuses to kill his parrisites and I read that you can reinfect through sperm saliva. Could you write something about what you know about parrisites
    Thanks again love the personal touch to your emails
    LOL
    Petra

  38. Elzeline says:

    Love this! It’s so true. I have a question, Kevin and Annmarie. What kind of food do you serve your family members or friends who are perhaps not on this healthy path who come and visit you?
    Thanks.

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