Don’t worry, I’m completely aware that I need to explain this image, and the unicorn with the arrow coming out of its horn as well…
I know you’ve seen the infomercials…
They promise abs in minutes, weight loss without diets, mini-sized packaged meals sent to your door, and trim down fast, speedy diet pills.
The common thread between them all is that they’re not selling you a solution. They are selling you the idea of a magic pill that will burn fat off your hips, waist and stomach without having to do that much work.
Look, I’ve watched them and even I get sucked into the pitch just enough to wonder if I could use them to hack into my body’s biochemistry to get an extra edge. (Keep in mind, this is coming from someone who’s never been more than 20-30 pounds over my ideal weight — which I’m at now.)
But as you know, not a real brain buster here, these are anti-solutions to real weight loss. I’ve been talking about real solutions all week, and today, I’m going to give you one that — while it seems subtle — may actually be as close as we can get to the magic pill (though admittedly, it’s still quite far off…)
Law #4 – The Undeniable Laws of Lasting Weight Loss: Effective Emotional Energy Management
LOL, I know…
I’m a little skeptical from time to time as well and if you told me 10 years ago that managing energy was an effective weight loss tool, I would have told you to save your emotional energy for when you start to break down after the 500 crunches you need to do to get real weight loss results (Yeah, I’ve totally softened up since then.)
Of course, exercise is great for weight loss, but it’s only one piece of the pie — preferably raw apple pie, BTW.
What I think is more important — in terms of laying down a successful groundwork for lasting weight loss — is figuring out how to control yourself on the inside. Once you do this, the rest will follow.
Here’s a few ways to do it…
Play the Part of Someone Who’s Positive (Even if you’re not…)
So, the first magic pill is letting go of the negative chatter in your head that is around your body image and anything else. Your negative thoughts — yes, you have them and so do I — don’t do you any fat burning favors. All they want to do is keep you from changing into something that may be a little uncomfortable at first, but tremendously rewarding in the long run.
On a physiological level, negative thoughts and beliefs create more stress for your body than it needs and can turn on your fat storing engines (see Law #3.)
On an emotional level, your fear has every right to try and hold you back from succeeding, but you don’t have my permission to listen to that little devil on your shoulder.
Though my personal training days and beyond, I’ve been told numerous ways to shut down the negative chatter — some more effective than others — but all seem to note that this is one of the most important things you can do for your health and your life.
An interesting thing about negative thoughts…
Just the other day, Annmarie and I had lunch with Dr. Nicholas Gonzalez — the renowned alternative cancer doctor from New York.
About halfway through the meal, he shared that one of the most important items a patient needs to bring to his office to increase their chances of healing was a positive attitude.
Surprising — since you might have thought it was an enema bag — but in his 20+ years of practice, this is what he’s figured out.
Now keep in mind, this is for healing cancer patients. Cancer, in my opinion, is a little more complicated than slimming down around the waist.
So if these cancer patients can survive with cancer starting with a positive attitude (this, of course, isn’t the only therapy they use), then you assuredly can reach your idea weight with a change in mood.
Next Up, How to Get Your Mind Thinking about Love and Unicorns
You might laugh when I say “love and unicorns” but it’s actually something I think from time to time when I need to brighten up my mood.
Unicorns are an inside joke with Suzanne, the amazing designer we’ve worked with for years. When I want to bring attention to an area on a site or a page, I always have asked her to put flashing arrows and dotted lines and the like — many times to her dismay. One day, she was feeling a little punchy at my insistence on a certain page and decided to put a flying unicorn by the area. When I opened the graphic proof, I nearly fell off my chair laughing. Since then when I ask her to put flying unicorns on a page, she knows exactly what to do and we both get a good laugh about it.
So I say “love and unicorns” to myself to cheer up a bit. Sometimes I even end my Skype messages with close friends with it. You may think I’m borderline nutso, but the truth is, setting up pattern interrupts like this is very effective in changing your mood… and fast.
Next time you’re in a bad mood, try giving yourself a little love and picture unicorns flying around it with a big bowl of delicious salad on its back just for you. Did I just brighten up your day or what?! (Or scare the heck out of you… you take your pick, both are right. LOL!)
A more sane approach is to take a lesson from the book of Peter Ragnar a colleague in health and longevity you may know of.
One of him mantras is to repeat the line “I am a child of the universe (or God), I am safe.”
Think about how this could positively impact the way you think about things on a regular basis. What if you new you were safe no matter the decision you are about to make. A safe child of the universe looks differently at the treadmill than a scared, unconfident you. I bet if you adopted this as your mantra, you’d make more decisions from a positive place. You might even lose weight without having to worry so much about it — hence the magic pill-like effect.
Finally, “Tap” Into Your Inner Weight Loss
No, this isn’t a reference to liposuction, what I mean by “tapping” into your inner weight loss is to use a technique called “tapping” or EFT to clear any blocks that may be stopping you from losing the weight — particularly emotional ones.
Tapping, to me, is an easy technique to learn that you can do yourself, and works to clear your energy around whatever issue you’d like to address. In this case, tapping could be very effective in getting your energy managed properly so that you think more happy thoughts than not. Again, remember unhappy thoughts bring you stress, which then bring you fat — so the more you can train your brain to think like Yogi the Bear (minus the picnic basket stealing) and not like Scrooge, the more likely you’ll be lighter and looser than ever before.
If you want more information on tapping, click here.
But again, just like all these laws, don’t put all your trust in what I say. Try them yourself and let me know what happens — chances are it will be in your favor.
And just in case you think this is woo-woo, one of the biggest findings of the Nurse’s study — one of the most widely regarded studies on diet and lifestyle — is that people with a positive attitude tend to be thinner.
See, my magic pill is even approved by medical professionals.*
Your Question of the Day: What do you do to think happy?
*I think I have to have a disclaimer here that says having a positive attitude is not a cure or treatment for any disease. However, having a positive attitude is approved for prevention of road rage, physical abuse, addiction, lying, cheating, stealing, war and many other human related ailments. Possible side effects include uncontrollable giggling, jaw and cheek fatigue and, more serious, your drink being expelled from your nostrils. If you are experiencing any of these side effects, please see a health care practitioner immediately for the appropriate vaccine. Remember, laughter is contagious. It must be stopped.